RelationFix

#16 You Too Can Become Beyonce!

In this episode, Frank joins Shana once again to discuss personal growth. Every relationship begins with the relationship we have with ourselves. Shana and Frank discuss Jay Shetty’s advice about relationships and Shana guides Frank through the process of creating a new persona who acts more from his higher self. You won’t want to miss this episode of transformation. It’s time to do the work. Let’s dive in.
Resources:
CBT Schema
Jay Shetty 3 relationships 
8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go: Shetty, Jay: 9781982183066: Amazon.com: Books
Quote: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is your power to choose your response. In your response lies your growth and your freedom.” -Viktor Frankl
Frank’s Persona Name: Forza Saggio (for-tsa saj-eo)
Shana’s Persona Name: Sekhmet 
Host: Shana Dubay
Guest: Frank Anthony DiLuzio
Music: ROA
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#15 Finding Meaning in Grief

In this episode, Shana talks about one of the hardest aspects of relationships: grief and loss. She discusses her personal experiences with loss and the feelings that arise; Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Susan Cain, and Glennon Doyle’s work on loss and pain; and how to help transform our pain into service and love. If we live long enough, we will all face this type of pain at some point in our lives. You won’t want to miss this deep and poignant episode. Let’s dive in.
Resources:
Mr Magorium's Wonder Emporium He Dies - Your Life is An Occasion - YouTube
Five stages of grief | CNN
On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families: Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, Byock M.D., Ira: 9781476775548: Amazon.com: Books
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss: Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, Kessler, David, Shriver, Maria: 9781476775555: Amazon.com: Books
Bittersweet (Oprah's Book Club): How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole: Cain, Susan: 9780451499783: Amazon.com: Books
Glennon Doyle Melton: First the Pain, Then the Rising | SuperSoul Sessions | Oprah Winfrey Network - YouTube
Host: Shana Dubay
Music: ROA
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#14 It’s Off to Work We Go!

In this episode, Shana is joined by former coworkers Melissa and Josh to discuss the intricacies of workplace dynamics. They cover everything from work/life balance to crossover relationships, and from resolving workplace conflict to the importance of leadership and culture in performance. You won't want to miss this important and dynamic conversation. Let’s dive in!
Resources:
Simon Sinek: What Noah Taught Me About Leadership (TRUE STORY) | Live2Lead 2016 【C:S.S Ep.2】 - YouTube
Host: Shana Dubay
Guests: Melissa Small and Josh Gravel-Blaney
Music: ROA
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#13 ”Let them” Method, Kin Keeping, Anticipating Needs

In this episode, Shana talks about common themes that keep arising with her clients and in her own life. She discusses the “let them” theory, created by the amazing life coach and author Mel Robbins; kin keeping: what it is, its importance, and how it impacts relationship dynamics; and anticipating needs: how anticipating your partner's needs is important and different than mind-reading. Don’t miss this quick yet important episode. Let’s dive in!
Resources:
3 Ways to use the Let Them Theory | Mel Robbins Podcast Clips - YouTube
The Family Kinkeeper Role | Psychology Today
Spheres Of Influence
Orange: things I can control
Green: things I can influence
Blue: Things I can't control 
 
Host: Shana Dubay
Music: ROA
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#12 Love Languages: Giving and receiving love

One of the most common problems in relationships is feeling unloved and unseen by our partners and friends. Learning how we give and receive love is one of the highest forms of communication and can help us reconnect to form more meaningful experiences. In this episode, Frank returns to help Shana explore Gary Chapman's world of the 5 Love Languages. You won't want to miss this interesting and fun episode! 
Resources:
The Love Language® Quiz (5lovelanguages.com)
Bookstore (5lovelanguages.com)
 
Host: Shana Dubay
Guest: Frank DiLuzio
Music: ROA
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#11 Stress, Meet Grace

In this episode of RelationFix, Shana gives some quick tips for self-love, grace, and communication in your relationships during times of great stress. Don't miss this quick and to the point episode. Let's dive in. 
P.S. RelationFix will be taking a break over the month of May. We will be back with more amazing content on June 5th. Don't forget to take care of yourselves and lead with love and contribution. See you soon.
Host: Shana Dubay
Music: ROA
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#10 Inqueery: Answering questions about same-sex relationships

In this episode, Shana is joined by the amazing Frank and her partner Melissa to talk about the multi-faceted world of same-sex relationships. Hear all three of their stories in this candid, funny, touching, and honest conversation about what people within the LGBTQ+ community can face in their lives and relationships. Understanding other people's experiences only seeks to bring people closer together. Don't miss this opportunity to connect and learn more. Let's dive in.
Resources:
Understanding Gender and Sexual Identities:
Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Definitions - Human Rights Campaign (hrc.org)
A Guide to Understanding Gender Identity and Pronouns : NPR
Transgender Youth:
The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives
Violence Against LGBTQ+ Community Info:
Violent Victimization by Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity, 2017–2020 | Bureau of Justice Statistics (ojp.gov)
Fatal Violence Against the Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Community in 2021 - Human Rights Campaign (hrc.org)
Host: Shana Dubay
Guests: Frank DiLuzio and Melissa Small
Music: ROA
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#9 Masculine and Feminine No No’s

In this "quick tips" episode of RelationFix, Shana discusses 3 no no's for masculine and feminine energy types. Learn what behaviors and patterns to avoid, and how to change them. 
 
Host: Shana Dubay
Music: ROA
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#8 What’s your attachment style?

In this episode of RelationFix, Shana and Frank discuss Attachment Theory; the theory that how we related to our caregivers in early life impacts our ability to form secure relationships later in life. They explore the different types of attachments and give some helpful tips on shifting from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments to secure. Our early relationships often set the foundation for our relationship dynamics as adults, so you will not want to miss this episode to understand how they affected you and your loved ones. 
Resources:
The Attachment Project: Learn Attachment Theory from Experts
Interview with Marisa G. Franco: How to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure (melrobbins.com)
M.A.P.S.: About MAPS - Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies - MAPS
Books: 
Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--And Keep--Friends a book by Marisa G Franco (bookshop.org)
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--And Keep--Love a book by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (bookshop.org)
Host: Shana Dubay
Guest: Frank DiLuzio
Music: ROA
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#7 Why do we do what we do?

Understanding why we do what we do all comes down to our needs. What are our basic needs as a human being, and how do they drive us? We also welcome Frank back for a super special guest appearance to talk about this interesting and deep subject. You won't want to miss the fun, growth, and insightful conversation on this episode of RelationFix.
Resources:
Tony Robbins: 6 human needs: why are they so important? (tonyrobbins.com)
Johan Hari Ted Talk: https://youtu.be/PY9DcIMGxMs
Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Theory (simplypsychology.org)  
Spheres of influence Worksheet (wsimg.com)
Human Needs Exercise Example: Below are the numbers from the episode on a sample sheet for the exercise with Shana and Melissa. Melissa was asked in post-production what her numbers were, and they are reflected on the sheet.
                              Shana         Shana as Melissa        Melissa (real numbers)
Certainty/Comfort     9                       10                          10
Variety/Variability      6                        7                            8
Significance               8                        9                            9
Love/Connection      6                        10                          10
Growth                      9                        10                          10
Contribution             7                         9                            10
 
Host: Shana Dubay
Guest: Frank DiLuzio
Music: ROA
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